Posted by sabrina on August 01, 19102 at 03:50:14:
Do I should sometimes do things I donĄ¯t enjoy? This was a question I asked myself years ago. Now I have the positive answer, and I am happier after doing them.
When I am asking myself this question years ago, I was just leaving home and going to university. Then I met the problem: sometimes I want to do my homework, but my best friend need my help with her study; sometimes I want to be alone, do some reading, but one of my old classmates came far away to visit me and want to have a visit of our campus; sometimes I was blue, but my family called and I know I should not let them knowĄ These things often happen in our lives, now I donĄ¯t hesitate choosing the latter. There are mainly three reasons.
First, I feel much happier after doing them. Those things that I may not enjoy doing, are sometimes much important to some people I care, and their emotions mean much to me. If I did things I liked regardless their emotions, their unhappiness will exceed my own happiness, and I would regret that I had turned them down. Doing things for others is a mean of expressing love. It is said the one who shows love is much happier than the one who accepts love. I choose to act as the former because I really love them.
Second, if I were in their shoes, it is evident that what I should do. If I needed help in my study, if I visited my friend, if I called my family, I would not want to be refused, then I would surely feel disappointed. Things became easier to decide, by exchanging our positions.
Third, I am not doing things passively. I can change my time schedule of doing my homework, and make it a discussion between us, which will improve my understanding. I can adjust my emotion and guide my classmates, or chatting with my family without letting them know of my bad mood. Maybe at first I need make up, but after a while, I will persuade myself and I am as happy as I look like. I did them from the bottom of my heart, so I donĄ¯t feel reluctant.
After all, everyone is not isolated in his life, and everyone is not the center of his life. He might not do whatever he wants to do, and refuse everything he doesnĄ¯t enjoy. Here is a world, here is a life circle, here is a family. We need to think about others, we need to sometimes sacrifice a little for the sake of the people we love.